Friday, April 14, 2017

Adventure

I've been told by many that I inspire them. That they wish they could be me. That they live vicariously through me. That they want to be me when they grow up.  This is mostly based on my sense of adventure and the activities that I enjoy. Lately though, with life changes, the W.I.L.D. has changed. 

Life gets in the way, ya know? Relationships change, time gets allotted to other activities and quite frankly, I don't have the same energy (mental or physical) to take on the level of craziness that I once did. Yes Virginia, adulting is hard. 

I've noticed my decline in individual activities but take mental note to still do enough "me" things to make me, me. But I was proverbially slapped in the face after having recently posted a comment about an upcoming individual adventure on social media. Someone came up to me in person and commented along the lines of, "There's my girl!". Meaning, that the old adventurous me has been absent far too long. Well, let's take a look at this, shall we?

Perhaps it's true, that these days I have new group adventures that don't inspire or appeal to the masses, but they are adventures none the less. Come on, ever seen how adventurous life can be trying to get an unwilling participant to take medicine they don't want to take? What about figuring out how not to break a leg or twist an ankle while jumping on trampolines with fearless children who are doing somersaults and back-flips, that's definitely an adventure. Taking on any craft activity with children that includes paint, dye, glue or frosting is surely an underrated activity bordering on insanity.

But, because these adventures are far more common in the average household than say, snorkeling with manatees, I can see why some might think I have a "lessened" quality of adventure these days. And they would be wrong. Every day is a new adventure (yes, insert lame optimism here) if you allow it to be one. Most people get in a lull of dreading the activities that you "have to" do versus seeing the day as an opportunity of things you "get" to do. Perhaps because I'm new to the family life, I haven't yet become bitter or learned to take time with them for granted. Whether we're involved in big, exciting activities, or just going for a car ride, I enjoy it for the adventure it is, big or small.

Thursday, April 13, 2017

Strong

I'm currently managing a lot of new relationships in my life and while not all of these relationships are ideal, the fact is, they simply have to occur. The effort of learning how to balance emotions, stick to facts, live in the moment and maintain boundaries can be stressful even on the most perfect of days. And we all know, most days aren't perfect. 

My life these days is pretty complex, perhaps even complicated some days and usually way more stressful than I'd like. People wonder why my life is "so hard", and ask me, "Shouldn't it be easier?".  After all, I've had a rough past at times so don't I deserve a break? 

My response is, I'm given this life because I can handle it. A simple statement, that at times seems passive, but is truth. I know that other people could simply not handle the life I have or what I've been given. That is not to say that I am better than anyone, or that  I have a bad or rough life. It's actually a pretty wonderful life. But lessor people would have thrown in the towel long ago. 


In looking at how I've gotten to where I am today emotionally, I see how years of dealing with crappy people helped build patience, tolerance and perseverance. It helped show me how not to treat others. It showed me all the things I would never want to have happen to, or inflict on someone else. I felt the pain of broken relationships with friends, lovers and even family and endured it. Dare I correct myself to say that I survived it, because while it has taken years of work and mental re-programming, I feel like I can finally say I'm on the opposite side of it (the pain) now. 

Having finally put an end to older, broken relationships I had to wonder - have I traded one set of "broken" for a new one? The fact is, the new relationships I'm working on are indeed hard work and can drive me to tears some days. But, the hard work pays off in many unseen and unadvertised ways. I actually get something out of these new relationships, and that makes me happy. And when I realized that, I immediately stopped questioning myself on the issue. 

I recognize that the relationships of my past, volunteering in an educational program for children, teaching dog obedience lessons to humans of all types of mentalities and ages for over ten years in a classroom setting, and learning the psychology that comes with dog training itself, has prepared me for the life I have today. It is because of these life experiences that I can confidently say, you couldn't handle my life. You weren't meant for my life because you simply haven't walked the path I have in order to get here. I was given this life because I am strong enough to handle it. 

I used to think the tough things in life were some form of universal punishment and would ask "Why me?". But when you can learn to see past the pain of the moment, and know that in some odd way, whatever you're going through now will prepare you to handle some other situation later, you learn that everything in life is a blessing - good or bad. These lessons, no matter how easy, long, or horrible they are to get through, eventually blend together to teach you the skills you need in order to lead strongly, the life you were meant to lead. 




Thursday, February 23, 2017

Stuff


Things I've done, am doing, am contemplating or am looking forward to...

I should have a Fit Bit Charge 2 arriving to my doorstep today, compliments of a work-health benefit. Now, only if I can figure out how to use it properly and sync it with some other tracking programs I'm currently working out in I'll be all set.


Sushi dinner tonight with my Muffin-friend.

I just signed up for Stitch Fix, we'll see how that goes! I feel that I was able to give them some general "fit" ideas, and hoping they can add some new, fun pieces to my wardrobe (Me a Day Moment, by the way)

Currently, 53 days til my big trip with the hubs. I have two new bathing suits in route. Bathing suits - eek. But I really don't give a crap about my body's imperfections at this point. It is what it is. I will instead focus on the parts I do like, and focus on the activities being done in said bathing suit, versus self conscience bullshit.

Still can't say I'm used to my new glasses. The frames are big, bright and bold. And since there are no nose-pads, they're constantly smeared. And don't even get me started on getting used to using the different levels of focus in them. Ugh. It's been two weeks and I am still not use to them - is it time to throw in the towel and get something different?  

Struggling with some healthy eating choices as of the past few days, but back on track (so far) today. I will celebrate the successes of working out and eating well, versus berating myself about the crap I can't change anyway.

Despite partaking in it, I must admit I'm pretty sick of social media these days. It's the same old crap from the same people. Politics, share this if you love Jesus, I bet this dog/vet/grandma/kid can't get a single "like" posts, etc. I've been transitioning some of my on-line time to crossword puzzles instead. At least that's not a total brain waste.

I am grateful for the warm and sunny weather as of late, and am not looking forward to the colder, yet realistic for this time of year, weekend. 

I recently refinished a boring, brown, wood, framed mirror. I updated it with a blue chalk paint, topped with a white coat. When randomly sanded, I ended up with a reclaimed wood style-look that actually matches our bathroom. Yay!




Still contemplating volunteering, just not sure where yet. Thinking the local Park District may be the ticket, but I was initially discouraged by their seemingly lack of organization upon my application submission. I just don't like feeling "purpose-less" where the greater good of the world is concerned. Volunteering with the zoo gave me that and I miss it. Why can't there be zoos in the suburbs? : )

I'm going home and cleaning out my closet, which may literally leave me naked. I am following suit of an inspirational co-worker and getting rid of the things that don't "Spark Joy". I can't wait to get rid of a certain sweatshirt I bought years ago that never even fit, yet has been taunting me that "one day" it might...ugh, be gone damn you!  I may have to post before and after photos of my closet (thank goodness I signed up for Stitch Fix!)


Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Consequences

I started this post Feb 10th and never got around to "finishing" it, but I was obviously fired up about the headlines that day...

What's wrong with people today? The latest news updates are that of a kid who got thrown to the ground in school for allegedly bumping into another student, suffering multiple facial fractures and having to be put into a medically induced coma followed by a man who decided to kill and allegedly rape a jogger because he was "upset" and having issues at home. Since I don't know all the details of these cases or if the alleged attackers are truly guilty - I'll just make this a hypothetical blog post.

So, hypothetically, a man has a bad day and kills someone because he's upset. My first reaction is - who the eff thinks of and has the balls to do that? How is it logical to go from, "I had a bad day" so now "let me go kill someone"? People like this need a good ass whoopin' (and then some) to say the least.
What is wired so wrong in these people's heads that they can't cope with basic life and it's issues, like so many of us do, and they have to resort to such violence? 

Of course, this one story of violence is a mere fraction of the wrong doings that go on across the country and throughout the world. Sadly, it's stuff like this that gets fed into the media mainstream, and even noted in this blog. Negative, nasty behavior seems to dominate the world, but why? Is it the shock value? Like, how everyone can't stop staring at a bad train wreck or car accident? Perhaps. Do people act poorly knowing it will garner this type of attention hence making them, "famous"? I don't know. Perhaps there's chemical imbalances or mental issues that make people do what they do (psychopaths, murderers, etc), but I'm going to go one step beyond the shock factor and ask, where are the "consequences" of people's behaviors in this day and age? 

When I was raised, there were consequences for every action that I did, good or bad. And the consequences were severe enough that if I choose to do something stupid, the punishment would insure a new found respect for authority and that I did not repeat the process of stupidity and poor judgement again. So where are the consequences in today's world? 


In my opinion, people don't "parent" today and want to be their child's best friend. Kids today threaten to call the cops on their parents for "abusive" behaviors (which is really called consequences). Kids are not taught that life isn't fair or how to deal with it, versus getting a participation award for just showing up. This sets people up to fail later in life when they haven't learned to cope with any type of hardships. In some cases, perhaps there's a true mental or chemical issue at hand that would drive negative behaviors but when I see bratty kids slapping people, pushing people, and not being corrected - I'm still going to stick with the idea that lack of consequences can lead to stupid and irresponsible behaviors later. 

Monday, February 6, 2017

Sensationalism

sen·sa·tion·al·ism
senˈsāSHənlˌizəm/
noun
  1. 1.
    (especially in journalism) the use of exciting or shocking stories or language at the expense of accuracy, in order to provoke public interest or excitement.
    "media sensationalism"

A post of not so random things that I feel sensationalism and social media has made far worse than its reality...

Politics: I have no problem with difference of opinions and those who state their concerns in a fair and intelligent manner but find it deplorable that not everyone can fight a clean debate. With that said, I grow increasingly annoyed by what the news, social media, and individual contributors present to the masses where politics are concerned. It seems that only Anti-Trump opinions matter, and that if you are not of the same mindset you are considered a number of things, including racist, unintelligent, and sexist. 

I find that most, not all, Anti-Trumps have turned their opinions into opportunities to outright bully others and spread hate. One example (and I have many) of this is witnessing a friend who is now afraid to speak their mind or share photos after being sent explicit hate mail when posting photos (on social media) of themselves attending the inauguration. I find it hypocritical that a side, any side, fighting for human (and more directly women's rights) is literally pushing others who disagree with them into a closet of fear where opinions that differ cannot be voiced. 

It is also highly disappointing to witness those who have not bothered to educate themselves base their opinions (and social media posts) on botched videos and fact-less news. I've witnessed certain people grandstanding in a movement that they know nothing about. I suppose for some, this is an effort to feel included and to be a part of "something". I disagree however, and believe that politics should never be a place of conformity, versus making an educated choice. Kudos to those of you who have done your homework and can speak in facts about your opinions and beliefs. 

A Dog's Purpose movie. Yep. A movie. Based on a spliced together video of alleged animal abuse, PETA is calling for a boycott of this movie. I have watched the video myself, and once again, shrug my shoulders at the sensationalism PETA and social media has created while not representing all the facts. I have been a pet owner for most of my life, I am going on my 10th year as a force free, positive reinforcement, professional certified dog trainer, and have volunteered with the Anti-Cruelty Society as well as an accredited zoo dealing directly with animals and education programs to the public so yes, I do have animal rights in mind as I am typing this. While I don't agree with what the video portrayed (a dog being "pushed" into water), I do not think it was abuse. If the video was accurate and real, at best I would say that the actions taken in it were a very, very poor lapse in trainer judgement and handling. Perhaps I am jaded, as I have seen abuse first hand. I have seen animals scarred and burned. I have seen animals matted with 10 pounds of excess, filthy fur who can hardly walk because of neglect. I have seen animals starved and beaten. So perhaps, I have a different opinion of what abuse actually is? But based on it, I still support and plan to see the movie. I believe that the American Humane Society, having been on set of the movie, backs and regulates their claims that "No animal was harmed in the making of this film" and wish others would think and investigate on their own before jumping on the boycott bandwagon. 

Update: A new video and article has come out stating that the previously released abuse video was faked. While I don't doubt the original video was spliced to appear far worse than it was, I still stand by my opinion that the trainer used poor judgement at times, but feel "vindicated" that there was no farther "abuse" as suggested in the original video.

Budweiser Commercial. During the Superbowl, Budweiser aired their commercial called, "Born The Hard Way". It is a story of young, German immigrant, Adolphus Busch coming to America and making good on the American dream. This has been interpreted as a direct attack on Trump's anti-immigration laws and finds many supporters calling for the boycott of Budweiser via hashtags all over social media. Perhaps I'm naive, but it's a commercial people! Think about the time frame it took to put it together will you? I highly doubt that it was created as a direct response to Trump's election or laws. I'm asking people to get out of their internet bubble and realize that not everything on TV or the internet has to be about politics. Stop sensationalizing the most basic data and making it something to be hated or banned (like clothing lines from Trump family members and coffee chains)  

And if I'm wrong? Then either drink the beer or don't, but then I'll ask that if you've used a hashtag followed by anything related to "boycott Budweiser", please take it a step farther and boycott every other item in existence that was created by an immigrant (and good luck with that one).  


Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Happiness Hodge Podge

<=== I found this today and thought it was very poignant. It's a great reminder for me that the "Leave It To Beaver" crap I watched growing up is not the family "norm" and should never be a goal in life. Enjoy life, live in the moment and move along...

...I am heading to Florida this weekend with the hubs as the trip is part of my birthday present to him! Can't wait to continue to celebrate...especially in warmer weather.

...In addition to Florida, I get the opportunity to travel for work at the end of the month. San Antonio bound for 4 days. Of course, work trips are just that, work, but I'll make the most of it by getting up early to enjoy any good weather that I can! Traveling also puts a strain on my workout and eating habits, but I will stick to my word of the year and...

...CONQUER. Yep, that's my word and mantra for the year. I found it to be a strong word, and most fitting in regards to tackling different obstacles ahead of me. Dropping emotional baggage, creating a better me emotionally and mentally, and getting back into running condition for an upcoming race. I want to conquer it all. So much so, that I even ordered a necklace from My Intent with my word on it. Can't wait for it to arrive.

...I've continued with my workout routine and meal plans so far this year and the smart choices are paying off. Mentally and physically. Additionally, I've logged over 30 gym miles for Run the Year 2017. Not too shabby for a girl with a sprained ankle.

...I finished (reading) a book! And yes that is an accomplishment for me! I finally completed Michael J Fox's, Always Looking Up. I liked most of it, but there were definitely some dry parts that aided in the slow read and lack of progression for me. I am not sure what to start next, though. I have a few books downloaded on my Kindle, and was thinking about tackling a Carrie Fisher novel. None the less, it feels good to have a book under my belt for the year already, as there once was a time I could read 1-2 books a week! 

So yeah...that's my year and day in a nutshell so far. I'm still taking back a "Me a Day" moment every day, despite not blogging about it. Today's me time will be spent either checking out a movie, or getting a pedicure...let's see which one wins! Of course, a nap sounds just as good. 


Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Pain

Soo... I woke up with a sore throat and hoped against the odds that it was irritated from snoring, or sleeping with my mouth open. By noon, I knew this was not a little irritation versus a cold coming on. Of course, I left any preventative measures like vitamin C and zinc at home, so I couldn't even get a head start on staving off the impending infection. 

The icing on the cake today however, was that I ended my day with this...which I get to wear 4-6 weeks for a painfully annoying (or annoyingly painful?) sprained ankle. Happy 2017!



Me A Day Moment: I actually listened to my body and made a doctor's appointment to check out what was going on with my ankle. Yay!